How to save a relationship: tricks to win back

If you are one of those who believe in second chances or that everything is possible if there is effort and commitment involved, this article is for you.

Going through a sentimental crisis in which you feel overwhelmed, your mind plays badly on you, you feel distrust, fear and/or you feel bored is NORMAL. We have to accept what we feel and work on those feelings. Your case may not be that you are going through one of those crises, it may be that ultimately you and your partner broke up and you feel worse. But calm down! It has happened to all of us and today we are here to help you and guide you through the process.

The first thing you should do is think calmly, ask yourself if it’s worth keeping trying or not, it’s no use fighting for something you’re not sure about or on a whim. Always remember to value yourself, love yourself first before another person and respect yourself. Now, yes honey , here we tell you how to recover a relationship

Evaluate what has brought them to this point

Why are we like this? Why do I feel like this? Why are we estranged? You must answer this and all the necessary questions to understand if it is worth recovering that relationship. You must find the real reasons why the relationship has gone downhill and think logically if there is salvation.

Do not get frustrated!

Take things calmly, never make decisions in the middle of the problem. Human beings tend to be very impulsive and say the first thing that comes to mind, without thinking about the damage we can do to the other or if what we are saying is real. You must accept and understand that when a relationship is not going well we must have a lot of patience, go step by step to strengthen that bond.

Recovering a relationship can take a day, a week, a month or more. There is no predetermined time to be in a relationship again, each relationship is a world, so be patient.

As a couple you must express your feelings, listen and understand the other

It is not about meeting and arguing, this does not make much sense and is perhaps one of the problems that most affects the relationship. Talk calmly, listen to each other, allow the other person to speak and express everything they feel. If you suddenly disagree with what the person is saying, be calm, wait for your turn to speak, and don’t interrupt. Accept what that other person feels, talk calmly.

Accept faults and ask for forgiveness

An essential step to be able to continue as a couple is to accept the mistakes that have been made throughout the relationship. Probably that other person does not realize that there are situations or comments that make you uncomfortable, that hurt you and seriously affect you or vice versa, maybe you think you are doing everything right and it turns out that you have made small mistakes that have led them to depend on a thread. Be mature and accept your faults and look for solutions together. Asking for forgiveness frees you from any mental complaints you have, so apologize for your mistakes and commit to improving.

Time and space

Many people disagree when someone asks for a little time to think, but this is sometimes super necessary. As human beings we need time and space to take a look at everything that has happened and it is not a time of one year or ten years, it does not make sense to be separated for so long if there really is a healthy and beautiful love.

Once the time and space that both agree on is fulfilled, they can begin to reconquer each other, start from scratch and with the best attitude. Do not see this time as something negative, rather it is a period to think calmly and smooth things over.

Show interest in that person

At the end of that time it is time to make contact, do not wait for the other person to come to you. If there is a real feeling in common, don’t be afraid to go ahead and make the first move yourself. Make that call, send that message. Dare yourself!

Ask the other person if they are willing to move forward

When wanting to recover a love relationship , it is essential to be aware if the other person is interested in coming back and starting from scratch, with the best attitude, willing to try new things and give love. If that other person is definitely not showing much interest or is zero convinced, it is best to step aside and focus on getting over that person.

Have a positive attitude

Avoid being the victim or the most affected part of the relationship , accept the situation that has happened. It may be painful and difficult, but if you are making the decision to try again, you have to put negative feelings aside. In this new stage there must be a positive, pleasant and open attitude based on mutual learning, respect and love for each other.

Remember what you like and fall in love with that person

This is a step that both parties have to analyze. Write down and be aware of everything you like about that other person, why you want to be with that person, what captivated you from the first moment. Connect with everything that attracted you to that person. This exercise awakens positive emotions and revives love.

Constancy and communication

Be persistent, try to do your best to solve problems and stay in touch, show that other person the interest you have in recovering and healing the relationship. No suffocation!

Another point that will help them a lot is to take care of communication as a couple, being able to speak openly and be heard. Do not reserve anything, say everything you feel so that the other person understands you. If perhaps it is difficult for you to ask or express something, keep in mind that you are doing it for the good, you have to trust.

Go to couples therapy if necessary

This is an indispensable resource for those who want to resolve conflicts and cannot find the right way. It is an option that should not embarrass you at all, in fact, it is one of the most recurrent solutions. A professional will know which exercises to apply to test the functioning of you as a couple and will never listen to only one of the parties, he will be listening and supporting both as a couple.

Unconditional support

As you move forward, remember that with that person you have shared your life, your dreams, your desires, your love, your finances, perhaps your children (if they have them), their intimacy and spaces. They are unconditional companions, I like to believe that couples are each other’s number 1 fans.

If you want to undertake, that person must support you; if you want to change the look, that person will love you more and praise you; if you want to buy a vehicle, that person will contribute even 10% of the cost, in short, that person must support you, advise you, be your faithful confidant and be your right hand. And all that you must be for the other person, without judging and without reproaches.

Take care of privacy

A great plus in any relationship is intimacy, those little moments where you can look into each other’s eyes, connect and let go. Encourage passion, dare to try new things, to do what you didn’t do out of fear or shame. Enjoy yourself and the other person.

Have time alone

The idea is to have a strong, loving, honest relationship and be together through thick and thin, that doesn’t mean you have to behave like twins and be together 24/7. NOTHING OF THAT! Have a relaxing day at the Spa, go out with your friends, visit the nearest shopping center, go to the gym, paint, dedicate yourself to your work, read a book or do any other activity that you enjoy alone. And allow the other person the same, needing a distraction outside the relationship does not mean that as a couple it is bad or that the other person no longer loves you. Have a mature attitude!

Value and enjoy the time together

Just as you should enjoy being alone, you should also enjoy and value the quality time you spend with your love. Put aside the phone and try to give pampering, affection, hugs, kisses and express everything you feel. Put on a good movie, prepare snacks and enjoy.

Assess together what you want for the future

Nothing more beautiful than being part of the path that your partner is tracing, now imagine being able to be in that future together, celebrating the victories, laughing at everything that happened in the past. Ask him how he sees himself in the future, what he would like to be doing in 2 years, what places he would like to visit, whether or not he would like to have children. It is super positive to have that clear and to know if both fit in the other’s future.

Arrange a date

The routine tends to exhaust and weaken the couple’s relationship, hence the importance of having different plans at least once a month or every weekend. Make up an outdoor date, go to that restaurant you haven’t been to because of “spending less”, have a day outdoors, practice your favorite sports and activities more often. This is also a way of saying: I love you.

More details and surprises

Regardless of whether they are anniversary, birthday or not, always be detailed. A chocolate can brighten up anyone’s day, a pair of shoes, a new dress, a surprise box with their favorite sweets, something that, no matter how small, makes a difference and makes that day a very special one.

Say I love you

Super necessary to say I love you when you wake up, at sunset and at nightfall. There are no more meaningful words in a relationship. Accompany that I Love You with a hug, a caress or a kiss, you will see how the smile is drawn on the lips immediately.