“ Yes, it happened to me too. I have been bullied online. ”
A sentence that is difficult to pronounce out of fear and the impotence that derives from it. Yet saying it is the first step towards solving the problem.
Often online one has to deal with so-called haters . They use violent language or language with different shades of aggression to express disagreement on a topic or towards someone. Their Motivation The willingness to destroy what they fear, consciously or unconsciously.
Fear begets monsters: and you
will Flee or attack
The consequences are far from virtual , however, because they inevitably affect the real life of the “hated”, his work or his reputation.
To unleash them is the fear of the different and of what they do not understand, so much so that they feel threatened by it. And you know, in a dangerous situation, the reaction and the escape or the attack. The haters attack with “aggressive” comments and posts, without understanding that this hatred derives from the opposite will: to flee.
Internet: a shield for haters
However, escape does not emerge in the case of haters for a specific reason: they are “protected” by a screen that guarantees anonymity , the possibility of remaining invisible ,the asynchrony of communication and the minimization of the authority of others . A shield that protects them from an equally aggressive or, even worse, calm response, which puts them in front of their fear, showing them that what they do not understand should not be demolished, but accepted as a tool for growth and knowledge.
A concrete example: sometimes there is violence but it is not seen
Yes, it has happened to me too . In my case, the message was not filled with explicit and violent insults, but implied a harsh and unjustified criticism , because it was carried by someone I had never seen, who did not know at all about my working method. I report the screenshot of the comment below.
A negative review, you will say, certainly not the fury of a hater. Instead, it is precisely between the lines that the aforementioned desire to destroy someone hides: here the reputation of a professional is on the plate . Nothing wrong with certain cases, except to discredit me and someone who has never been a patient of mine. If the user had visited my site or had talked to me, he would have discovered that the principles, which inspire my profession and my daily work with patients, are far from the summary simplifications given as an example in his review.
Here the intention is to damage “for free”, without bringing evidencedetails in support of his accusation: what mix of drugs are we talking about?
We know the composition and the effects.
Not to mention that what is “heavy” for one patient is not so for another, just as methods and recovery times.
With this article, we therefore want to suggest to all haters a good reason to write online : do not do it to attack in a destructive and self-satisfying way, but write to dialogue , inform yourself , learn , create relationships and build your own truly critical thinking .
