“You are getting married in the Municipality
But in the Church it is more beautiful!” And who said it If you have decided to get married in a civil ceremony , go your own way and don’t listen to anyone who tells you it won’t be exciting.
But what are the differences between civil ceremony or symbolic rite For
the marriage to be civilly valid, the rite must be celebrated at the municipal house in the presence of the Civil Status Officer. Some municipalities provide, in addition to municipal offices, other places: villas, ancient buildings, scenic locations.
If your choice falls on a shared wedding, you can still partially customize your ceremony. Study a good soundtrack, so as to highlight the most important moments. Do not be satisfied with the bare environment that is offered to you, but personalize it with the chairs and flowers that you like best. Do not follow the stringent schedule that they offer you, but add some readings from your dearest guests and exchange your personal promises, prepared thinking about your destination.
However, if this civil ceremony still seems unexciting, you can resort to the increasingly used Blessing.
Custom of Anglo-Saxon import, the couple decides to first marry civilly in front of the Civil Status Officer, in the presence of witnesses, parents and a few other guests, and then renews the promise in a place with a high emotional impact.
More and more used, now many spouses opt for this solution, which allows to make the ceremony unique, without necessarily the guests knowing that it has no legal value.
Some think it is a farce, but I do not think it is so, because the emotion that the spouses feel at that moment is not even remotely comparable to a sterile signature in the Municipality. How to make this ceremony unforgettable
- Choose carefully the person who will celebrate the rite : it could be a person linked to you by particular affection or a professional celebrant who will be able to emphasize the most exciting moments with emphasis
- Study a good musical lineup : your favorite songs, the ones that accompanied your love story, the ones that make you excited. Choose them carefully and they will accompany your ceremony to create a magical atmosphere
- Personalize the ritual with exciting readings : they can be dedicated to your love, your family, your friends. Let your loved ones read them. Or leave them free to express themselves in a text dedicated to you.
- Seal the ceremony with symbolic rites with strong emotional power.For example, the Rite of the Sand, in which the spouses mix sands of different colors: their individual lives mix to create a new life that from that moment on it will no longer be possible to separate. The Ceremony of Light, in which you will go together to light a candle, a symbol of the beginning of your new path. The hand binding, where your hands will be tied with a ribbon to symbolize the commitment of a peaceful life together. The Rite of Roses, in which you will exchange your first gift, a symbol of constant attention in the years to come. For the more artistic, you could try Unity Painting: reverse two types of colored paint on a white canvas or, if you prefer, paint a subject together. This painting will accompany you for the rest of your life. If you also want to involve your guests then you can choose the Rite of the heat of the rings, in which a bag containing the wedding rings is passed from hand to hand until it reaches the bride and groom. Each guest will thus have the opportunity, holding the rings in his hand, to make his own silent and personal wish.
- The exchange of the rings : you can decide to conclude the marriage in the Municipality without the ritual exchange of the rings. This passage is more exciting than the signature you previously placed, so keep it for now. In case you have not married in church due to impediments not related to your faith, you can always have a pastor intervene to bless the rings.
- The exchange of promises : you know those American films in which the protagonists exchange very romantic promises at the moment of yes
Here, this is your moment as real protagonists. You can memorize them, indulge in improvisation or read them. The important thing is that it is something truly yours, that starts from your heart and that is done considering the deep knowledge you have of the person in front of you. - Finally, do not neglect all those small details that are most easily found during a religious ceremony: ceremony booklets, fans, rice cones, soap bubbles, bags with scented petals, wedding bags. Room for customization, all in line with the style of your wedding. And you can also add accessories for your guests , which might be out of place in the church: hats, sunglasses, parasols.
You are still so convinced that the civil ceremony risks being less exciting than the religious ceremony
Alessandra Marciano
Wedding Planner
Salva
Salva
