“My little girls were defenseless in the face of such a monstrosity,” read the president of SOS Desaparecidos, Joaquin Amills, referring to a letter written by Beatriz Zimmermann, mother of Anna and Olivia, the two girls murdered by their father in Tenerife at the end of April. , within the framework of the opening of the conference on vicarious violence organized by the Diputacion del Comun in the Parliament of the Canary Islands.
The mother of the minors says she has reconsidered “many things” after this tragic experience and has strongly requested that we all be “less tolerant and more radical” at the first disrespect because “respect is everything” and it is very difficult to recover When you lose. Even more so in the case of children, since it has highlighted that “they are defenseless and vulnerable” in these circumstances and their parents are “an example” for them.
Beatriz has commented that she was “afraid” of separating from Tomas in case that situation negatively affected her daughters, but over time she realized that “it was better to grow up in an environment where peace and love reigned” and that “was impossible “
“I thought he was a good father and I was totally wrong”
According to her, nobody thought that Tomas could be capable of doing something like that, “everyone thought he was a good father, and that is what is worrying”, she writes, adding that many abusers also they play “psychological games” on children to win them over to their cause.
Losing custody of the children and “being the embarrassment of society worries them a lot”, since according to her the abusers want to maintain a pristine image for society.
That children do not see abuse as something normal
In the letter, Beatriz declares that children “are present and future” and their education must be given “more importance” because ending the ballast of violence “is very difficult overnight” but if we start now ” it is easier” that in the future it be achieved that “they do not see abuse as something normal”.
Alluding to vicarious violence, Amills, who has read some drawings that children sent to Beatriz, has commented that finding Olivia “was a gift of life” to “scream enough is enough” and that children should not be used under any circumstances. concept as an instrument to cause pain to their mothers.
