Searching for the perfect match is a lot like a scavenger hunt in some pretty rough terrain. Any false step or mistake can make us go through an embarrassment or a very bad time.
Because of this, people usually don’t express their feelings until they are pretty sure the other person feels something similar.
The whole game of looks, approaches, favors and messages is a preliminary in which two people are making sure that the other likes them enough to risk a good percentage of success.
The ideal guy could be that best friend you’ve known all your life, but who has never dared to confess his feelings for you, or it could be that new classmate you met very recently.
He might even come off as a very manly and confident guy, but when it comes to true love, he’ll hardly be able to pull himself together enough to risk telling you how he feels about you unless he’s absolutely certain that he’s not going to suffer tremendous rejection.
Even the reason why he does not tell you that he is completely crazy about you is that he does not want to lose opportunities to be close to you even if it means having to behave like a “harmless friend”.
When there is attraction but also apprehension and anxiety on both sides, learning to detect the most subtle signs is of vital importance so that you can be sure of his feelings towards you and dare to take the first step.
Here are ten signs and signals that the guy who is secretly in love with you is sure to show:
1. Change when you are around
There are plenty of guys out there who always seem relaxed, happy, and comfortable in most situations, but if he has a secret crush on you, you’re likely to notice a change, which can be subtle or very noticeable, in his demeanor when he notices you. that you are close
These types of abrupt changes are excellent evidence that you provoke some emotion that is difficult for him to handle. Maybe he’s trying to be more sophisticated or careful than he normally is so he doesn’t make the wrong move or make a bad impression on you.
Even if you notice that this change is strange and not so pleasant for you, you should respect his way of acting and at least manage to send him a big smile and let him know that he can be himself when he is with you.
2. His eyes say it all
He may not say it in words, but his eyes are a projection of what he feels towards you. You might catch him taking a long look at you and then noticing and turning abruptly when he realizes you notice him.
His eyes would like to stay looking at you all day and although he wants to hide it, it is very difficult. Does your best friend radiate brightness and warmth in his eyes every time he sees you? Well, he may not be so happy with just being your friend.
Pay close attention to the patterns of her gaze. Above all, she tries to catch him looking at you when he thinks you don’t see him.
3. He blushes
Adorable blushes and shy smiles are usually attributed to girls, but don’t doubt that if he secretly loves you, one or two of these will slip out at some point.
Have you ever noticed that his cheeks turn red when you give him a compliment or a nice comment? Or do you congratulate him on something? Or do you just walk past him and say hello?
If your actions have such a big impact on him, it is for a reason, and surely it is for a good thing. Try throwing him the occasional innocent compliment and carefully analyze his body language.
4. It seems that you are the only important thing
When a boy secretly loves you, it is very common that he is always very attentive to your particular responses even when they are among more people.
For example, if someone tells a bad joke and you happen to laugh, they will laugh too. Or when he asks a group question, it seems like the only answer he takes into account is yours.
You are simply the focus of his attention and he wants to get to know you better. Sometimes this behavior can take the place of teasing yourself. It is not bad will, but maybe he does not know very well how else to approach you and that he does not seem to like you.
5. You are the first person to respond
From being the first person to notice you’ve changed your haircut or bought a new jacket, to being the first to comment and like your social media posts, he’s always the first to give any social feedback when It’s about you.
If he is in love with you, then he is doing it because he is trying to make you notice his presence. In a way, it is a kind of initiative, although he is not sure if you showed his feelings.
6. He is not interested if you have attractive friends
A friend who doesn’t flirt with your other friends or ask you to introduce him to any of them is weird. Especially if he is single. So this may be a good clue as to where his true interest lies.
These types of friends will never make you feel jealous with the presence of other women in his life, and it seems that the only female company he has is you.
For example, if you happen to be at a party full of cute girls, instead of going over there to see who he picks up, he might just sit next to you and chat quietly.
7. He touches you “accidentally” frequently
If a guy is secretly in love with you, he will find a way to get into physical contact with you. These “accidental” frictions may well even be unconscious and are characterized by not being invasive or annoying. Nothing that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Maybe he can’t resist and touches your hand during a conversation, or hugs you under any pretext, subtly adjusts your hair. Maybe he touches your back while walking together or tickles you.
Some guys may not understand niceties and, as we mentioned before, have a hard time expressing their interest.
So they can be a bit “rough” and play “jokes” like carrying you or pushing you in a friendly way. But don’t confuse these innocent displays with harassment or bullying. If it bothers you, just tell him.
8. It does everything for you
There are very good friends who are always willing to lend us a hand and help us.
But there is a particular type of friend who is on the lookout for your slightest wishes and rushes to fulfill them without asking for anything in return, sometimes even before you know how he knew. Those are the ones who are in love with you.
Allow yourself to be pampered and see how he reacts when you show any difficulty. If he’s the first to jump out of his chair to help you, there’s something else there.
9. Accompanies you shopping
Or any other activity that kids would normally find boring. A guy who secretly loves you is willing to wait for you for three hours while you pick out a pair of pants just so he can spend time with you. And besides, it doesn’t seem to bother him at all.
When a guy says yes to any plan, even if it’s watching your synchronized swimming practice, he really loves you.
10. For him, everything is about you
Boys are just as egotistical as girls, and they also like to talk about themselves. But a guy who is secretly in love with you is dying to know more about you so he can find out if you like him or not, so he will always steer the conversation towards you.
Guys usually talk a lot about themselves when they want to openly court you. But when they don’t dare to do it, they do the opposite: they listen carefully to whatever you have to say.
Did you identify with one or more of these points? Well, you can now take the initiative with a little more certainty that your feelings are reciprocated.